You can’t control who you fall in love with. But you do control how you treat people. If you’re dating your sibling’s friend, learn to handle it properly.
Usually, dating your sibling’s friend is a no-no. In reality, it makes perfect sense why we would fall for them. You probably see them more often because they’re a friend of your brother or sister. You also have known them for years and have a decent relationship with them.
That’s a pretty good equation for something to occur between you. That is, if there’s some sexual chemistry involved.
Though this is great, consider your sibling and how they feel as well. If you want to be with this person but still maintain a good relationship with your sibling, there are some things you need to keep in mind to properly handle your relationships. [Read: Things Women want Men to Know]
How to handle dating your sibling’s friend
No one can control their feelings for someone else. Sometimes we fall for people that we would never have even given a second glance, but with time, they steal our hearts. Love is strange that way, believe me.
If you told me a couple of years ago that I would be with my partner, I wouldn’t have believed you. We’re completely different, yet, I fell for him.
Sometimes it’s not just falling for someone who’s the complete opposite of you. Other times we fall for people who could make things a little complicated and awkward. But if you handle dating your sibling’s friend properly, it’ll go smoothly.
#1 Don’t hide it. Listen, eventually, your sibling is going to find out about you and your new flame. It just so happens that this person is also their friend. You may think it’s best to hide it to protect your sibling and the relationship.
It’s a bad idea. Seriously, have you not seen one chick flick? Don’t beat around the bush. Instead, just tell them up front and as soon as possible. [Read: The must-know rules and exceptions for keeping secrets in a relationship]
#2 Give your sibling time to process this. After you tell them, don’t expect them to be suddenly okay with the idea. They may be fine with it, but it’s going to come as a shock to them. Give them some time to process everything. I recommend not all of a sudden making out with your new partner beside them on the couch. Take it easy.
#3 Hang out as siblings. Just because you’re with their friend doesn’t mean you can’t spend one-on-one time together. Remember, at the end of the day, you’re still siblings.
So make sure that you focus on spending time together without your partner around. That way, they’ll be able to open up about the relationship without feeling awkward. [Read: How to be a good friend to those around you]
#4 Know the possible obstacles. You know your sibling better than anyone. So, with that being said, you also probably know what their reaction is going to be like. Be prepared for your sibling’s reaction whether positive or not. You may have some obstacles in front of you, so as long as you know what you’re getting yourself into, it’ll be fine.
#5 Spend time as a couple with your sibling. It’ll definitely be awkward the first couple of times, but once you get over the initial awkwardness, because, let’s face it, it’s going to be awkward, everyone will get used to the relationship. Spending time together, all three of you, will create a closer bond and not feel like your sibling is losing their friend.
#6 Know how you feel. Listen, before you take the relationship to the next level, make sure you actually like them and are really interested in them. If this is something that’s only a fling in your eyes, why not pick someone else that isn’t your sibling’s friend? There are so many other people to hook up with. Seriously, just go on Tinder. But if you truly have feelings for them, then go right ahead.
#7 Don’t dwell on the sibling thing. If you make it this far and have decided to be together, you’re going to have to move on from the whole sibling drama. You’re dating their friend now. There’s no point dwelling over the fact that they’re your sibling’s friend.
If you keep worrying about it, you’ll keep the bad energy over the relationship between you, your partner, and sibling. [Read: How to stop negative people from zapping your energy]
#8 Lay off the PDA in front of your sibling. This may seem like an obvious one, but I just have to remind you. When you’re in love, you tend to overlook these things. If you’re hanging out with your sibling and your partner, be respectful. The last thing they want to see is you in an intense make out session with their friend.
#9 If it’s not working out, end it on good terms. This is your sibling’s friend, you can’t hump and dump them. I mean, you shouldn’t be humping and dumping anyone, but this is definitely someone you shouldn’t be treating disrespectfully.
If you want to end things, do it respectfully and make sure your sibling isn’t in the middle of your relationship.
#10 Don’t share any stories. Listen, your sibling may be cool with you dating their friend but don’t expect them to be cool with you sharing “stories” with them about your relationship. You have other friends to talk about sex with, so leave your sibling out of it.
#11 Be careful what you say. You need to watch out what you tell your sibling and what you tell your partner. Remember, they’re friends. Whatever you say will travel through both of them. If you start talking about your sibling’s flaws or issues with your partner, this could start drama and vice versa. So, try to keep things neutral between your sibling and friend.
If you’re dating your sibling’s friend, that’s completely okay. However, handle the situation with care because it’s not just you and your partner’s feelings at stake.