Igbo Traditional Marriage Rites – On their return visit to the bride-to-be’s home, the groom’s parents will reiterate their intention that their son wants to marry the girl in question.
At this stage, it is expected that the bride-to-be’s family must have concluded their investigation and consultation with their daughter and should be ready to give the groom either positive or negative answer. Igbo Traditional Marriage Rites
Some of the items presented to the bride’s family by the family of groom during the return visit are; kola nuts, palm wine (local brew), dry gin and soft drinks. Gifts presented by the groom-to-be’s family may vary depending on the community or town since they are not all monolithic. Both families will share the food and drinks.
Igbo Traditional Marriage Rites
In some communities, the bride to be is summoned before both families on the return visit and asked if she is interested in her future husband. If she agrees to marry her future husband, they will set another date for the actual marriage ceremony called “Igba Nkwu”.
The family of the bride compiles a list of items that the groom’s family will bring to the wedding ceremony as demanded by Igbo customs and traditions. Typically, the list includes the following:
• Gallons of palm wine
• Cash gift
• Bottle of Gin
• One goat
• Packets of cigarettes (optional)
• Bags of rice
• Tubers of yams
• Crates of soft drinks
• Bundles of George/Hollandis wrappers
Igbo Traditional Marriage Rites: The exact number of items required depends on the tradition of each community or town.
In the final stage of the traditional marriage rites, the groom will go to the house of the bride-to-be with his immediate and extended family, villagers and townspeople with the above items.
Host families will prepare different kinds of indigenous dishes to entertain their guests. Both families and their extended families including members of their communities will eat, dance and drink together. Igbo Traditional Marriage Rites
During the ceremony, the bride will be asked to give palm wine to her husband, which she will do while kneeling down.
The parents and elders in the family of both the bride and groom will pray for the newlyweds and the for the success of their marriage.
Afterward, the bride and groom will dance along with their family members. When the ceremony is over, the bride will go home with the family of the groom signifying that the two are now husband and wife. Igbo Traditional Marriage Rites